CHESAPEAKE BAY SWINGING BOATERS
NOTE: This web page supports our yahoo group http://groups.yahoo.com/group/CBSB/. This group was created for swinging couples that boat on the Chesapeake Bay to meet, arrange raft-ups, and exchange information relevant to our members. To apply to join this group, enter your email address and click the link below:
BMPN - BALTIMORE MARYLAND POYAMORY NETWORK
SWING CLUB ARCHIVE AT http://www.localswingersclubs.com/
Are you a swinging boater? Are you a boating swinger? Are you a boater
who is just interested in the swinging lifestyle? If you are any of these things
then you have probably discovered by now how difficult it can be to meet other
boaters who enjoy exchanging intimacy as much as you do. The Chesapeake
Bay is a hot spot for swinging, swingers, and lifestyle related activities -
home to many friendly people who enjoy sharing intimacy with others through
lifestyle related activities. Likewise the bay is a favorite location or destination
for any boater with a true love of the water.
This site is for swinging COUPLES to get together to share these two sensual
pastimes. Our Fleet is growing rapidly - several hundred couples with their boats
and a love for intimacy. In the coming months and years we hope to see many
openminded boaters meet up on the water! Members will be holding
regular rendezvous in the area and hope that you will sign on and join us.
Anyone can "host" a rendezvous. Typically, host boats (which can
be any size or type) will post by Wednesday or Thursday that they're going some
place that weekend. The host boat is responsible for being at the proposed
location and for monitoring the hailing channel and guiding other boats to the
rendezvous. Others will post “I’ll join you” or will simple
drop by the area and hail the host boat.
The club has adopted a standard Burgee – a pennant flag that will allow club members to identify other members of the club. The club has also adopted a hailing call and a specific channel for members who are out and about to contact each other and arrange rendezvous. For reasons of privacy, the club burgee, the specific calls and channels, the locations of potential raft-ups, and the names of club members and vessels will not be identified on this website. You will have to join the group to get this information. Once you become a member of the group you will be able to get a burgee and will receive detailed instructions on how to contact other group members while on the water.
Just enter your email box and click on the link above. Alternately, if the box is not working you can click the following link [SUBSCRIBE] and follow the instructions on how to apply for membership. Very shortly you will receive an email notifying you about your membership in the group and telling you how to see the group archives and view information about the group.
1. What is the CBSB club?
CBSB is a free, open membership online community of swinging boaters in the Chesapeake Bay. Our sole mission is to help Swinging Boaters on the Chesapeake Bay Meet other Swinging Boaters on the Chesapeake Bay.
2. What are the rules for posting messages to the CBSB Message Boards?
By becoming a member of the Chesapeake Bay Swinging Boaters you explicitly agree to abide by the following rules in your conduct with the group. These rules were agreed to by unanimous vote by the the founding membrs of the organization and are systematically enforced by the group moderators. These rules are intended solely to protect the members of the group from unwanted posts.
RULE ONE - BE ON TOPIC:
All posts must be on-topic for the group's mission - that is they must be to promote swinging boaters meeting one another in the Chesapeake bay area. Polite banter, socializing, jokes, questions, and similar materiel are also acceptable, subject to the other rules. Unsolicited advertisements - regardless of the product, service, worthy cause, political necessity, or social value - are NOT acceptable unless they directly concern swinging boaters on the Chesapeake Bay.
RULE TWO - NO SPAM OF ANY KIND:
Unsolicited advertisements - even including promotional postings concerning other swinging or boating events, groups, clubs, get-togethers, or parties - are not ON-TOPIC and are not acceptable, subject to the following exceptions:
a. Anyone may post any outside link to the group on the LINKS page on the CBSB group. Egregiously off-topic links will be deleted at the discretion of the moderator.
b. For non-CBSB events, any event coordinator or host may post a single announcement to the CBSB group for a *specific* upcoming event, provided that the event is one that would appeal to a majority of our members. For this to be true, in addition to being a specific event (date, place, and time), then two or more of the following must be true. The event:
- must involve swinging or lifestyle related activities,
- must be a boating event, and
- must be happenning within our members' ordinary cruising area.
c. Any member may also include an outside link as a postscript (below the SIGNATURE line) to any ON-TOPIC message that they post to the group. Additionally, any message which is otherwise legitimate that contains a promotional message and which appears to have been written solely to convey that message will be treated as though it were an unsolicited advertisement.
RULE THREE - BE CIVIL:
All posts must be polite, civil, non-inflammatory, non-racist, non-sexist, and courteous to other members and their guests. Members who post insulting or imflammatory remarks or who continue flame wars ON THE LIST will be automatically BANNED from the list regardless of "who started it" or who is "right". If you would like to disagree or discuss a particular point with an individual member or members you should contact them offlist.
RULE FOUR - POST SUGGESTIONS OR COMPLAINTS OFFLIST:
All suggestions, comments, or complaints to the moderators concerning the group, list, website, or other members should be posted to the moderators offlist at "cbsb-owner@yahoogroups.com". The only exception is for suggestions for upcoming CBSB events, which should be posted to the list for discussion.
3. What is Swinging?
Swinging is social and sexual intercourse with someone other than your mate, boyfriend or girlfriend, excepting the traditional one-on-one dating. It may be defined as recreational social sex. The activity may occur at a swing party, a couple-to-couple encounter, a liason, or with a third person in a threesome. Though single men and women are involved, it is primarily an activity of couples.
4. Who Are Swingers?
People who swing come from all economic levels. Every job classification, all races and nationalities are represented, though the majority are Caucasian, middle to upper middle socio-economic class, and married. Swingers, married and single, tend to be adventuresome, emotionally mature, and have excellent relationships with their mates and friends. Single people are involved in swinging but not to the extent of couples. Many single women have joined swing clubs, finding them a refreshing alternative to the traditional bar scene.
5. Is the swinging lifestyle for you?
That depends a lot on you. Are you over the age of 18? Are you patient? Friendly? Polite? Can you deal with rejection? Are you mature enough to take "NO" for an answer and not let this ruin your fun? Are you secure enough in yourself to be intimate without develoing an obsession? If the answer to any of these questions is "NO", then the lifestyle is definitely not for you.
6. Why Do Couples Enjoy Swinging?
Swinging is "the recreation" for couples whether they are married, committed (having an ongoing emotional commitment), living together (co-habitating, with or without an on-going intimate relationship) or single couples who date. A study of swinging couples (McGinley, 1979) reported increased enjoyment and satisfaction in the relationships accompanied by a better understanding of self and mate, greater intimacy between the partners and a decrease in sex role playing and sexist expectations.
7. Why Do Women Enjoy Swinging?
It is certainly an understatement to say that the role of women in our society has greatly changed over the past several decades. The humanistic and woman’s movements have had an impact on sexuality also. The number of women choosing involvement in swinging during the past few years is remarkable. Sexual and social assertiveness on the part of women at swing parties and other swing activities is not only acceptable, it has come to be expected.
8. Why Do Men Enjoy Swinging?
Whether married, in a relationship or single, swinging can be a wonderful experience for a man. Not surprisingly, most women who are into swinging were introduced to the lifestyle by a man in their life. Also not surprising, many men would swing if only they could. They are hindered from the experience by their marriage, or if single, their inability to find a woman for a swinging partner. Of course, guilt feelings about sex and pleasure, and sex roles, also hinder men from swinging.
9. What is Sex in Swinging Like?
The actual sexual activity of swinging is varied. Though important, swinging is rarely centered around the orgasm but on the various pleasurable acts that lead to orgasm. It is about having fun in intimate ways. Most develop techniques they feel pleasure their various partners.
10. No Means No!
The most important rule in swinging is "No Means NO". It is fundamental that is someone does not want sexual contact with you that you respect their wishes and leave them alone. Don't touch without permission. Don't join in without an invitation. This is a basic rule that if you break you just might find yourself swimming home.
11. "No" *ALWAYS* Means NO!
This bears repeating. No always means NO. Even if it is delivered in a hasty or unkind way. Even if it makes you upset or if you feel you deserve better. Even if you bought her dinner, rubbed her feet for hours, and washed and waxed her car. It is a fundamentally basic rule that everybody has the right to choose their sex partners.
12. Practice Safe Sex!
Practicing safe sex is, of course, a person's choice. But it's a very important choice -- this is the 2000's after all. Anyone's decision to use condoms should be politely accepted. Anyone not willing to accept this decision is acting irresponsibly and disrespectfully. If someone's willing to be intimate with you, you owe them the simple courtesy of respecting their comfort level.
13. Respect the Feelings of Others!
Beware, not everyone is comfortable in all situations, Keep your eyes open for signs that your partner, as well as others, is relaxed and enjoying themselves. If someone is not comfortable, try helping them over the rough spots. Remember, you were a beginner once yourself. If it is obvious that things are not working out, remain polite and courteous; but alert the host. Keep in mind that not all people feel the same about things.
14. Alcohol or Drugs!
All prudery aside, drug use is simply not acceptable in either swinging situations or in boating situations. Boats are subject to random searches without cause by coast guard and police vessels. Even small amounts of drugs on board can result in seizure of the vessel and arrest of the owner. Alcohol, too, should be used with care while on the water. Many of us drink socially. At times, a few drinks are nice to help you "relax". Over indulging may hamper your physical abilities, as well as offend or turn other people off to you. If you have to drink heavily in order to participate in swinging, you are involved in the wrong lifestyle.
15. How and When to Say No!
One of the basic etiquette's in swinging is the right of anyone to say "No". Experience has taught most people that everybody is not right for everybody else. Improper handling of a situation, can however lead to a lot of hurt or very bad feelings. The swing world accepts the premise that everyone has the right to say "No" to anyone at anytime and it should be done with a simple "No thank you". Never give an explanation, because that is what usually causes the problems and the pain.
16. Don't Push!
Remember, "no" means "no." Anyone has the right to refuse your advances just as you have the right to refuse theirs. Don't expect or ask for any explanation, in this lifestyle an initial "no" will seldom change to "yes" no matter how much persuasion you apply. Not everyone will match perfectly and an improperly handled situation can result in hurt feelings. If there's someone that you would like to swing with, let them know in a friendly manner and accept their response -- whatever it may be. If they change their mind, they'll let you know.
17. Do Only What is Fun for You!
Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not interested in. There is no reason to involve yourself in a scene that you are not comfortable with. You are in the lifestyle to enjoy yourself, so only do what you want, when you want and with whom you want.
18. Be Clean!
Nothing turns a person off faster and more effectively than an unclean body or un-fresh breath. Even if you shower and perfume yourself before you leave home, it is always a good idea to freshen up again when you arrive at your destination.
19. Never Arrive Empty Handed!
When you go to someone's home for a party, ask if there is something you can bring. (it's amazing how many supplies, other than food are used up at an average party.) If you are not going as a couple, a house- gift is appropriate (and not necessarily wine.)
20. Be Courteous!
The lifestyle can raise certain, valid insecurities, uncertainties and fears. You're not always going to find people that share the exact same views that you do. Always try to be aware of other people's comfort levels, especially your partner. In a group party situation, a friendly "hello" can work wonders to ease someone's discomfort, and if you find that your interests are in different directions, or any attractions aren't mutual, remember to remain polite, as you would certainly wish to be treated. When meeting a potential swing partner one-on-one (or two-on-two, or two-on-one as the case may be) the same applies: be polite, even if you don't think there's any potential for intimacy, you could still have a great time anyways. Keep an open mind.
21. Be Yourself!
People are interested in YOU, so relax and be yourself. This doesn't mean you should be a jerk and disrespect others, it means you should "let your hair down." Also, whether or not you're interested in swinging with someone or a couple in particular, remember to always be polite. You may have other things in common and develop quite a friendship despite your initial reaction. In swinging, as in the rest of life, our relationships can change with people over time and through them you might meet someone with whom you wish to be intimate.
22. Call to Say Thanks!
Most people only use the telephone if they are going to go somewhere. Lost seems to the social ambience of a 'Thank You Note' or phone call to someone whose hospitality you enjoyed. It means a lot to most people, and they will surely remember you when planning their next event. Don't you like to be thanked?
23. Enjoy Yourself!
Swinging is about having a good time. Live some fantasies, explore your sexuality and enjoy! This lifestyle has plenty to offer with clothes on as well as off. Approach it with a positive attitude and a sense of humor.
24. What is the difference between nudists and swingers on the bay?
Many of the fun, private areas and anchorages that might be available on the bay for swinging raft-ups might also be used by the Cheasapeake Nautical Naturists. It is *very* important that you understand the difference and know which crowd you are hanging out with.
25. Isn't Nudism just like Swinging?
The vast majority of Naturists have no problem with swingers sharing their anchorages or even hanging out with them. It is VERY IMPORTANT however that you (as swingers) remember that naturists will by and large react EXTREMELY NEGATIVELY to being in the presence of public sexual contact - even kissing or hugging while naked. What seems so natural to us in the swinging community is absolutely a major faux-pas in the naturist community - and will likely get you asked to leave any naturist gathering. The naturists come to enjoy the sunshine and the fresh air. A wild sex party is most emphatically not on their agenda. So always know who you are hanging out with and keep all sexual contact below decks. Remember that and respect their wishes and we should be able to co-exist peacefully side-by-side.
26. Why are naturists / nudists wary of swingers?
Virtually every naturist club has rules prohibiting public swinging activities - and for very good reasons. First and foremost is that most naturist groups are FAMILY organizations, and the presence of minors and even children is a very real possibility. Second is that many naturist beaches, enclaves, and areas have (in the past) suffered forced closure and arrests for what local law enforcement terms "public lewdness" - a very real crime in virtually every jurisdiction in the country, including national parks and waterways. Public lewdness can get you thrown in jail. More importantly, YOUR public lewdness can get the sponsor and the organizer of the PARTY thrown in jail and/or heavily fined. From the natuists perspective, many of the prime nude beaches and areas that used to exist in the US were "spoiled" by public swinging activities. So it is very important to be aware of who you are meeting and what "community" they are in, and ... as a general rule ... keep the sexual activity below decks and in private unless you are absolutely certain of who you are with and that you are out-of-sight from others.
27. But how do I know the difference?
The most important thing to remember is always know who you are dealing with. There are three basic ways:
LISTEN TO THE HAILING CALL: The Chesapeake Nautical Naturists use the hailing call of "Chesapeake Flotilla". If you are at an anchorage or in the bay and your hear "Chesapeake Flotilla" or if someone you meet at an anchorage says (or asks) if you are part of the "Chesapeake Flotilla" then they are Naturists and probably are NOT swingers. If however you hear OUR hailing call then you know the people you are dealing with are part of the swinging community. Information on our hailing call is available to all members once you sign up.
LOOK AT THE BURGEE: The naturists use a burgee that is either a light green or light yellow flag with a contrasting light yellow or light green "N" in the center and no border. The CBSB burgee is noticeably different and makes ours very easy to distinguish.
ASK THE CAPTAIN: When in doubt, ALWAYS ask the people that you meet if they are swingers or naturists. Better safe than sorry, as a misunderstanding could be very embarrassing and offensive.
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